You Can’t Control What Someone Chooses To Do, Or Who They Decide They Want To Be

You can't control what someone else chooses to do, or who they decide they want to be.

You can't control how they choose to see you from their own perception, or how they choose to use the reflection of who they are in the way they treat you.

It might be unfair.

It might be unjust or wrong.

But you can't control what another person decides to do.

Because what they choose to do and how they choose to see you has nothing to do with who you are.

It has everything to do with their experiences, their influences, their environments, and who they are.

When someone treats you in a manner that is ugly or unfair that's them showing you who they really are.

Because what they project is always a reflection of how they feel about themselves.

The reality is, there's a lot of people walking around out there who don't like themselves but who don't realise it because they've buried the things about themselves that they don't like so deeply.

They'd rather hurt and damage someone else instead of looking inward and working on the parts of themselves that they need to work on.

Some people will never take accountability for how their behaviours hurt others, and they'll never take the time to properly reflect on how they can be better; as a result they'll never change.

Or, they've made the decision that they don't want to because they know that they're going to dislike what they're going to have to face.

We all make decisions, but we can't control the decisions that someone else chooses to make, because those decisions are based on who they really are; and you're not them.

All you can do is let them show you who they really are and who they decide to be.

What you can control is what you're prepared to tolerate and accept, and what you're not...

Mark Smith 💫