What Kind of Relationship Do You Want To Have, and Are You Acting In Ways To Get There?

"What kind of relationship do I want to have, and am I acting in ways to get there?” It’s one of those self-reflective moments that can shift everything.

Here’s a way to explore it, gently and truthfully:

1. What Kind of Relationship Do I Want to Have?

Ask yourself:

• Do I want peace and emotional safety?

• Do I want a relationship where we communicate openly, without fear?

• Do I want deep emotional and spiritual intimacy?

• Do I want partnership, where we support each other’s growth?

• Do I want playfulness, joy, and presence, even in the mundane?

Now ask: What does that feel like in my body?

Let that vision become your compass.

2. Am I Acting in Ways That Align With That Vision?

Self-check gently:

• Do I express my needs honestly and kindly?

• Do I show up with emotional presence and care?

• Do I set and honor healthy boundaries?

• Am I choosing people or patterns that reflect the love I want—or the love I’ve been conditioned to accept?

• Am I healing my own wounds, or projecting them onto someone else?

You don’t need to be perfect. Just aware. Healing and alignment are a process, not a destination.

A Grounding Affirmation

“I am becoming the version of myself that can receive the love I desire.

I act from the truth of who I am, and I trust that the relationship I seek is also seeking me. When you ask, “What kind of relationship do I want to have, and am I acting in ways to get there?” you’re tapping into your inner compass—your conscious desire for love that feels aligned, not just familiar.

Let’s break this into layers to help you get clear, intentional, and lovingly honest with yourself:

1. Define the Relationship You Truly Want

Think beyond surface wants (like attraction or chemistry) and go into your emotional, spiritual, and energetic needs. Ask:

• Emotionally:

Do I want to feel seen, safe, and supported?

Do I want space to be fully myself—messy, growing, radiant?

• Energetically:

Do I want a calm, grounded energy between us—or passionate intensity, or both?

Do I want a connection that feels like home, or one that expands me?

• Practically:

Do I want shared values, shared vision, or spiritual connection?

What does a typical day together feel like? What are the non-negotiables?

Write it out like a love letter to your future self. This clarity is key.

2. Ask: Am I Showing Up In Alignment?

Now, take an honest and compassionate look inward:

• Communication:

Am I speaking my truth, or hiding it to avoid conflict or abandonment?

• Boundaries:

Am I saying yes to people or situations that drain me?

Am I settling for less than what I desire out of fear?

• Attachment Patterns:

Am I chasing love, avoiding it, or sabotaging it?

Am I recreating old dynamics from childhood or past trauma?

• Self-Love:

Do I treat myself the way I want to be treated by a partner?

Am I doing my healing work—so I don’t expect someone else to do it for me?

3. Energetic + Spiritual Alignment

Ask your heart and your higher self:

• Do I feel whole on my own—or am I hoping a relationship will fill a void?

• Am I clear on the difference between soul connection and trauma bond?

• Am I willing to let go of what doesn’t align, even if it’s familiar?

If you’re calling in a relationship based on truth, depth, and love, it’s not just about finding the right person—it’s about becoming the version of you who’s ready to receive it, co-create it, and sustain it.

A Soul Reminder

The love you seek isn’t out of reach. It’s in reach when your actions, energy, and self-respect match your heart’s highest vision.

Reiki and Shamanic healing are two deeply powerful and complementary paths that work together to bring energetic balance, soul alignment, and emotional release. When blended, they create a multidimensional healing experience—working on the physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, and soul levels.

What is Reiki?

Reiki is a gentle, hands-on (or distance) healing modality from Japan that channels universal life force energy to help balance and restore the body’s natural energy systems.

• Clears blockages in chakras and meridians

• Calms the nervous system

• Supports emotional and physical healing

• Helps reconnect with the present moment

• Feels like warm, loving light entering the body

Reiki says: “You are safe to receive. Let healing flow through you.”

What is Shamanic Healing?

Shamanic healing is an ancient spiritual practice rooted in indigenous traditions around the world. It connects with Spirit, nature, ancestors, and the soul to bring healing and insight.

• Retrieves lost soul parts (soul retrieval)

• Removes energetic intrusions or entities

• Clears ancestral patterns or karmic loops

• Connects with power animals and spirit allies

• Uses drumming, rattling, journeying, and sacred rituals

Shamanism says: “You are connected to all things. Your spirit remembers the way.”

How They Work Together

Combining Reiki and Shamanic healing is like bringing together light and earth, sky and root, flow and fire:

• Reiki soothes and restores—it gently re-aligns your energy.

• Shamanic healing digs deep—it reveals, clears, and reclaims what’s been hidden, wounded, or lost.

Together, they help with:

• Emotional release (grief, rage, shame)

• Trauma healing

• Empowerment and soul reclamation

• Spiritual awakening

• Energetic protection and clearing

What a Session Might Include

• Opening sacred space with prayer or invocation

• Calling in Reiki energy + spirit guides

• Laying hands on chakras while receiving intuitive messages

• Shamanic journey to retrieve lost power or release heavy energy

• Drumming, chanting, or sacred visualization

• Closing with grounding, integration, and blessing

Mantra to Begin Your Work

“I welcome the light of Reiki and the wisdom of Spirit.

I open myself to receive healing, to reclaim my truth,

and to return to wholeness—body, mind, heart, and soul.”

Here are some closing statements you can use after a Reiki and Shamanic healing session. These serve as sacred endings to honor the work you’ve done, seal the energy, and ground yourself:

1. Sacred Completion

“This healing is complete.

I honor the work, the wisdom, and the light.

I release what no longer serves me and welcome what is true.

I return to my body, my power, and my path with grace.”

2. Grounding and Integration

“I am grounded, clear, and whole.

All that was released is transmuted in love.

I carry forward only what aligns with my highest self.

I thank the guides, spirits, and energies who supported this healing.”

3. Divine Alignment

“I am divinely protected. I am divinely directed.