When you love yourself enough to set boundaries, you give yourself permission to set the limits you want and need to set in your life. Your time and energy are precious and you get to choose what and who you allow in your life, as well as how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by being very clear with what you will and will not accept. Many of us are so used to pain and being pushed around by life and people that we make ourselves believe it doesn't hurt! When you have been controlled and manipulated, you may believe that there is something wrong with you. Our lives are desperately trying to get our attention and hoping we pay attention to the soul lessons that are all around us. As survivors, we are being pushed to own our personal power and release what's not serving us anymore. Seeing your soul lessons and learning from them is why we are here in this lifetime. An attitude of gratitude is needed to help us explore and set our boundaries so we can shift from a survival mindset to a thriving mindset. Also, learn to disregard any negativity from others when you change your behaviors and make efforts to improve yourself. If others make you feel guilty or selfish for setting boundaries, do your best to not internalize their reactions and control. That is their stuff to deal with and not your baggage. You can be a good person and set boundaries, say no and change an old behavior while not allowing their reactions to control you, stop you or influence your decision to take better care of yourself. This is your life and your choices and decisions matter greatly! You've got this! I'm here for you, I believe in you and you are not alone.
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