We need to learn to recognize our anger feelings while they are still manageable, acknowledge them as legitimately ours, and act on this feeling in some appropriate way. Undeclared anger fuels resentment. Passive-aggressive behavior is another manifestation of repressed anger (not saying or doing something to help ourselves), which is the deepest hidden anger of all. Regardless of the way anger is expressed, or not expressed, it emanates from loss. When possible, kindly ask yourself why you are angry, but better yet, ask yourself what you have lost. The answer may come readily and your feelings may turn into an expression of that loss. Take a deep breath, acknowledge what has happened, allow the initial reactive emotions to reveal themselves and choose to respond with love, calmness and curiosity. Doing so will help you find your center so you can be the eye of any storm. This is one way to learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you have already lived through. You’ve got this and I believe in you!
